Ok guys, do you sometimes get the feeling that you just can’t get it right when it comes to speaking to women? Are you a complete sneaker breath and ending up disappointed in your romantic life because you keep turning women off when you communicate with them? Then you see those guys who don’t seem to be any smarter than you or better looking and girls just seem to be totally interested in them. What’s up with that? Well, if you are eager to discover what you want to know about talking to women then here are ten ways to get your act together:
To start with you must stop attempting to impress her. Girls don’t like it when you try to make up their mind for them about how they should feel about you. If you really want to be able to talk to a woman you better just chill and let her make up her mind about what she thinks about you.
The second thing you must master is keeping your compliments about how beautiful she is to yourself. Believe me, if she’s nice to look at, she knows she is. She’s had men telling her for since long before you were around, so what’s the big deal if you tell her what she is probably tired of hearing? If you must tell her something nice, find something about her demeaner or something she has on.
The third thing is that you can’t be afraid to get close to her. This means that you touch her lightly on the arm when you talk or at least touch one of her possessions such as her purse or her wireless phone. You see, women have this kind of sixth sense and they can tell if you are uneasy. Then they become uncomfortable and before you know it they simply make up their mind that they don’t like feeling like that and they split.
The fourth thing you have to learn is boundaries. If you can see that a women is ready to end the conversation and you turn into that needy man who tries to keep her interest she is going to tune you right out. Think about it, she could be preoccupied or perhaps she is just a little nervous because she is kind of interested in you. Either way, if you act desperate she is going to drop you like a bad habit.
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The fifth thing to learn is the art of polite put down. In other words, you point out something about her that is unappealing or even unattractive. Just do it in a casual way and don’t be mean or insulting. This will cause her to feel that she has to convince you otherwise and before too long she will be all over you attempting to win your attention.
Sixth, we move on to sexual tension. Now this is a thing which puts the unfortunate nice guys out of the game when it comes to women. You see, physical attraction between a male and a woman requires some dissonance for it to work. This means that you oppose her and even test her in a teasing sort of way.
The seventh thing is establishing comfort. The dilemma is that most guys attempt to accomplish this by bending to her every whim and being a softie. Sorry, that will only cause her to feel really uncomfortable. Why? Because a woman feeling comfortable is all about her having confidence in your capacity to keep her safe, being a nice boy just won’t cut it when it comes to that.
That brings us to the eighth key to attracting women and that is being the alpha male instead of the soft hopeless romantic. You see, a girl is not attracted to the soft hopeless romantic because she is afraid he won’t be able to protect her. Being the alpha male is going to cause her to feel safe when she is with you and because she feels safe she is going to relax.
Number nine, take action and pursue what you want. Women are much better at being easy on men for taking initiative or making a mistake than they are to tolerate a man who is sluggish or indecisive. If you wait around to understand what she wants from you before you make a move, don’t be surprised if she ends up being swept off her feet by a guy who makes a move.
Finally, go after the girl who is a bit ’out of reach’ and who may not seem that she really desires a guy in her life. Many guys are just too scared of an independent woman. This only means that there is less competition so if you are the guy who takes action to pursue the seemingly unattainable woman you are most likely the one who is going to get her.
So make sure to use each one of these steps and don’t falter unless you want to end up having soda and pie with the other nice boys on weekend nights. Have fun!
