Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Coach, writes… Contrary to popular finding love advice that’s out there in cyberspace, asking your potential mate a series of interview questions is one way for certain to turn him off and have him looking for the door.
Seriously, imagine someone meeting you for the first (or tenth) time, if they asked you questions that you’d expect to hear on a job interview. Would that put YOU at ease? I don’t think so. The relationship advice you get from a man’s point of view, may not work from a woman’s perspective. From a woman’s point of view, a real man is a man who can communicate about what he wants and how he feels.
It’s more acceptable these days for a real woman to express his feelings and communicate openly from her heart. Open communication is a prized attribute and a turn on for most men.
Whether you’re looking for a casual relationship or someone to spend the rest of your life with, you must start from square one. For the best tips and Love Advice for Dating the first place to start is to know what you want.
1. Knowing What You Want
What’s important to you? Get clear about what those qualities are and you’ll have an easier time knowing when you meet her. Is he funny, does he think you’re funny? Is it important to you that you share the same interests? Is he interesting, well-travelled? What about sports, hobbies, politics, or food?
When you have an idea about what you want you can start sampling from what you encounter in the world or in the relationships of your friends. What do you admire about the friends who have successful relationships? What are the elements that turn you off in other peoples’ relationships? When you’re straightforward and clear about what you want, trust me, you’ll be much more able to know when you’ve encountered Mr Right.
2. Be Flexible
When you’re flexible about how, when or who shows up, you remain open more possibility and how much easier it is to attract the right one. I’m not suggesting that you compromise or settle for less. I’m suggesting that you stay curious about ‘what if she’s even better than I can imagine?’ Be open to getting more than you asked for. That’s what happened for me. I got clear about what I wanted and I stopped listening to everyone else about how hard it was to meet eligible partners.
3. Let Go of the HOW
When you let go of the “way it’s supposed to happen” you allow the universe to works its magic. Though that may sound Woo-Woo, the truth is when you have a firm opinion about “HOW it supposed to be,” you limit yourself. You’re also in a resistant mode, which does nothing for the attractor factor.
4. “BE” the Person You’d Like to Meet
That’s right. You got clear on the qualities and values you want in your lover. Now the question is, “are you anything like the person you’d like to meet”? I hope so. If not, you know what you have to do. Start shifting your values and qualities. Then you’ll be a much greater match for your sweetie.
When you’re in the seeking mode, it’s much easier to find them when you know what you want. So get clear, go with the flow and be the kind of person you want to meet.
